After all I can DO

November 12, 2012

Inspirational, Ren and Hiedi

After All I can DO

This is something I’ve struggled with in a big way!

After the housing market slowed down back in March of 2008 I locked myself in my home office for 11 months.

I was determined to single-handedly solve this and slay the Dragon for my family.

  • Kids don’t talk to Daddy. He’s working!
  • I don’t have time for that!
  • Can’t you see I’m busy!
  • Leave Daddy Alone!

I was a BEAR! I got very little sleep. I Shut off my family and especially my wife Hiedi which was all wrong.

I was running out of FEAR and my family kept getting in the way.

It was a dark time. I’m so stubborn and get such Tunnel Vision.

Off Balance After All I Can Do

Then I finally realized after putting myself in the FIRE for so long that I was way off-balance.

Heavenly Father doesn’t expect me to run like a Crazy Man.

Everything should be done in proper wisdom and order and just because I swing my hands in the fight of life doesn’t mean I’m hitting anything.

I was running way faster than I had the strength.

How do I know After ALL I can do?

The talk that kept coming to me was the one with the big rocks, medium rocks, gravel and the water that all needed to fit in a jar.

If I put the big rocks (Family, church, calling, scriptures, prayer, temple, family home evening etc…) in the jar first, followed by the next biggest and so forth they all fit.

 When it’s the other way around they don’t fit. It’s not even close.

In the scriptures it says the lord blesses me AFTER All I can do.

So how do I know when I’ve done ALL I CAN DO?

I can always do more. So when is enough?

I’ve had to learn this the hard way.

It’s all about BALANCE.

If I work a solid 40-50 hours a week until 5 PM each day for a solution I’ve done all I can do. It was much less when Hiedi was pregnant and sick. If I work anymore my family life Suffers.

If I do this I can sleep at night knowing I’ve done all I can do.

If things just aren’t working like I had hoped then God must want me to learn and experience some things.

Not only is important to make time for my family but also for myself. Many times I’m just so close to the problem that I can’t see straight but if I back up a few feet it gives me a different perspective and I’m able to see solutions that I couldn’t see before.

I often think I can’t afford to take a break but what I don’t realize is that by taking a break I’m able clear my mind and be much more productive.

Another important lesson I’ve learned is to HUDDLE TOGETHER as a family especially when trials hit.

I think of the movie Gladiator. My son Max is named after Maximus from the movie.

One of the scenes in the movie is at the coliseum where the Romans were re-enacting a war between the king’s men and the prisoners. Maximus told all the prisoners:

We’ve got a better chance of survival if we work together

They were much stronger together then apart and because of this they defeated the king’s men who had much better weapons and armor.

In one of my ventures in the past there were 3 partners. One of the partners I’ll call Mike went on the road to provide for his family where ever work took him.

A couple of years after he did this I got an e-mail from him that said:

He had more money now than he’s ever had but that he lost everything he holds dear (his family) because he was away from his family. He said that he was desperately trying to get his life back in order.

I’m not saying that working away from family is wrong. I know families that have made it work.

I just want the odds in my favor and staying close together has helped us especially in hard times.

All the Best!

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